Forget Victim-hood
Bottom line: You are not a victim. You are creating the situations you are in; you are creating the emotions that flow from those situations. This is not a theory; it is life. You must be willing to move your position, and, however difficult or unusual it may seem, embrace the fact that you own the problem. That is not all bad news. Accepting your role in your problems, acknowledging that you are accountable, means that you get it. It means that you understand that the solutions lie within you. While everybody else is still out there blaming those who aren’t responsible for the results in their life, you can be as on target as a laser-guided missile, and therefore, work only on those things that will truly change your life. That gives you a tremendous head start in the solution category. Let today be a huge wake-up call for you. Quit looking in the wrong place for answers.
— Phil McGraw, Ph.D., Life Strategies
Money Funk writes:
And Now that my family is finally facing our wretched financial situations by taking control and not playing victim… we are am becoming that laser-guided missle. Although, I am happy about it… it has its growing pains, too. Lots of growing pains.
Anne writes:
But it is those growing pains that shapes the people we are and reinforces the things that we learn. That way we will continue to make good choices in the future rather than the impulsive mistakes of our past.
Good luck on your family’s journey and to your bright future together.